Hamein apni life mein bahut saari kamiyan hamesha dikhai deti hain. Aur aksar doosron ki life hamein complete lagti hai.
Pata nahi kyun, lekin kabhi-kabhi jo bahut saari cheezein hamein nahi mili hoti, woh ek saath hamare dimaag mein aane lagti hain. Ek list si ban jaati hai—
*Hamein ye nahi mila, woh nahi mila…*
Phir hum negative hone lagte hain, Bhagwan ko dosh dene lagte hain aur un logon se jalne lagte hain jinhe hamare hisaab se humse bahut zyada mila hai.
Lekin kya har cheez ke liye sirf "karm" ko zimmedar maana ja sakta hai?
Mujhe lagta hai ki karm karne ki bhi apni ek hadd hoti hai. Kisi ki parvarish kis mahaul mein hui, uske circumstances kya the, usne bachpan mein kya dekha aur use kis tarah ki facilities mili—ye sab uski soch aur behaviour par bahut asar daalte hain.
Kabhi-kabhi jise basic facilities bhi nahi milti, woh unke liye bahut zyada mehnat karta hai, kyunki usse unki importance pata hoti hai.
Wahin jise bachpan se bahut saari facilities aasani se milti rahi hon, ho sakta hai woh unki value utni strongly feel na kare. Iska matlab ye bilkul nahi hai ki wealthy families ke bachche mehnati nahi hote. Aisa bilkul nahi hai.
Agar kisi bachche ke paas resources bhi hon aur saath mein koi aisa insaan bhi ho jo use samjhaye, routine banana sikhaye, discipline sikhaye, consistency ki importance samjhaye aur ye bataye ki kuch achieve karne ki bhi ek cost hoti hai—toh wahi bachcha bahut achha kar sakta hai.
Problem shayad tab hoti hai jab parents khud apni life mein itne uljhe hote hain ki bachchon ko sirf unki zarooraton ke hisaab se cheezein dete jaate hain, lekin unhe ye samjhane ka time nahi milta ki kisi cheez ko paane ke liye mehnat kya hoti hai, discipline kya hota hai aur kisi cheez ki value kya hoti hai.
Bachcha usi tarah ki life jeena seekh leta hai.
Aur phir ek waqt aata hai jab uski aankhein khulti hain. Use lagta hai ki woh bahut peeche reh gaya hai. Lekin tab tak use samajh nahi aata ki ab shuru kahan se kare.
Lekin main ye bhi nahi keh rahi ki ye sab har family ya har bachche par apply hota hai. Har family alag hai. Har bachcha alag hai. Har kisi ke circumstances alag hain.
Main bas apni observations ke basis par apne thoughts share kar rahi hoon. Maine jitne logon ko dekha aur observe kiya, unmein mujhe ek cheez baar-baar dikhi—
**Jab tak kisi insaan ko kisi cheez ki kami ya uski importance genuinely samajh nahi aati, tab tak shayad woh uske liye utni mehnat nahi kar pata.**
Aur agar kisi ne kabhi mehnat karne ki zaroorat hi feel nahi ki, toh baad mein uske liye struggle karna mushkil ho sakta hai.
Isliye mujhe lagta hai ki har baar kisi insaan ko uski situation ke liye blame karna bhi shayad sahi nahi hai.
Hum bahut aasani se kehte hain—
*"Isne mehnat nahi ki."*
*"Isne apni life kharab kar li."*
*"Iske paas toh sab kuch tha, phir bhi isne kuch nahi kiya."*
Lekin shayad hamein ye bhi dekhna chahiye ki us insaan ko bachpan se kya sikhaya gaya tha, uske aas-paas ka mahaul kaisa tha, uski priorities kaise bani aur usne life ko kis nazariye se dekha.
Ho sakta hai jo cheez hamein bahut obvious lagti hai, woh us insaan ke liye kabhi obvious rahi hi na ho.
Aur shayad isi wajah se doosron ki life dekhkar apni kamiyaan ginne ke bajay hamein ye samajhne ki koshish karni chahiye ki **har insaan apne available resources, upbringing aur circumstances ke saath hi apni life ko navigate kar raha hai.**
Aap log is baare mein kya sochte hain?
Aapki life mein jo log aaye, unhe dekhkar aapne kya observe kiya?
Kya aapko bhi lagta hai ki parvarish, environment, facilities aur kisi cheez ki importance ko samajhna kisi insaan ki mehnat aur achievements ko bahut influence karta hai?
Ya aapka nazariya isse bilkul alag hai?
Main genuinely jaana chahti hoon ki doosre log is cheez ko kaise dekhte hain.